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Posted 4 weeks ago justme
offlineMemberRox is right MrEnte! I follow through your evolution and you're way ahead and doing good so far. I've read in one of the blogs here that one sign you're ready to reconnect is when you do not have questions , and whether you get your ex back or not you don't care anymore. So give yourself more time. You stay on your NC again and see for yourself what happens when you get back from your holidays. I'm sure, a lot of things will happen during your holidays and don't ruin the things you've already started. As you said " Many things are going well for me and I don't wanna mess it up. "
stay strong we will be here to support you!
Posted 4 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberRox and Justme, thank you
I'm doing good again, after two days thinking "too much" which that confirms I'm not ready for reconnection. A friend told me "One day you'll wake up and you'll realize that you completly forgort about her and the break up, it's a good feeling of freedom. From that day on it won't make much different wether you see her or not"
She'll collect her mail for the last time this evening and I already wrote the NC contact message. Will click on send tonight and keep on my evolution.
Countdown holidays: -20
Countdown NC Message: 0Will update you all tonight after I send the reccomended message!
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offlineMemberThanks OWN16 - I'm still working on it.
It's one of those days that I only have good memories and I think I'll like her back.
So I still need time, I'm in the process and it's working little by little.
As told another person, I will have to forget about the past with her a.s.a.p. and if I really want her back I won't rush things, will take her easy even during the reconnection period... as if it happens I will have to seduce her, attract her once again, this time with the new ME. (she'll have to work hard as well... I ain't gonna be that easy!).All the best
Posted 4 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberCountdown holidays: -15
Countdown NC Message: +5I've been doing good. Yesterday was not really easy but I survived and went out on the evening. Had fun meeting different friends and working on my confidence.
Today I woke up early and went to the gym. Run for 10 minutes, did some abs, worked out 10 minutes. Had a relaxed sauna, steam and also swam for 5 minutes. No need to stress to much and it really helps, even if it seems to little.
Going out in a few minutes for lunch with a friend and then a coffe, to my fauvorite spot (where I've been flirting with the waitress for quite a while.
That's how I'm gettin my life back! Regarding my ex, not much to add... I probably won't see her before I go on holidays and it does relax me a lot. I again don't feel the need to see her.
I'm gonna have a great time and whatever has to happen, it will happen.Posted 3 weeks ago # -
MrEnte
offlineMemberI'm back. Overall it has been a good day and San fuckingtins day didn't hit me.
Went to see a football match and then did some shopping.At the coffe place, the waittress greeted me once again with her smile -no kiss or hug this time :(-. But 2 minutes after I sat down she asked if I was back with my ex (funny thing is she asked me about my GF three days after the break up) it's also funny that my ex never liked her...
Kept the flirting going and it was really good for my confidence and it lifted up my mood!
Posted 3 weeks ago # -
Daniel
offlineMemberHello MrEnte,
thank you for your post in my diary, it really helped me a lot.
I just read through yours and I think we are doing great. Don't worry about the message you sent her, going into NC again was good I think.
Keep up and going and have a nice time with the waitress, even only talking and smiling with other people can help a lot.
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The proceeds will help maintain my free Blog and Forum. I Thank You for Your Support!Posted 3 weeks ago Petvet
offlineMemberHi Mr. Ente,
I think you are doing a great job! Nothing helps more than serving/helping other people. I think that is what we are put here on earth to do. It is great that you are volunteering etc. There is nothing more fulfilling then giving your time to help other people. In these "relationships" we find ourselves in, we often look to that person to "fill us up". When we serve other people, God's love comes pouring through us and it's God's love that fills us up, not our "ex". Our "exes" can never satisfy us the way God's love can.
Thanks! Petvet.Posted 3 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberHey all, thanks for your support.
Well I had a really good week.I'm staying strong even if in the last couple of hours I've been feeling a bit down... it's quite normal, there's nothing to hide. At least good feelings are lasting longer and I'm even laughting more often, feeling more confident. Bad feelings or bad thoughts, instead just visit me for a short period of time.
I'm no longer counting the days (oh, yes, just for the recors we can add a new countdown: 3 days without smoking!!!)... still I let the days pass by without preassure, trying to enjoy the best things of life.
Everyday I try to do something for myself and something for someone else. Believe me, helping others it really keeps our minds busy and it cheers up our moods.
I'll keep writting 'cause it makes me feel better and I'll be following closely the progress of the fellow members.
There's also another girl showing up more often, still I will take things easy, 'cause it's not a crime to make mistakes but it's a pitty to keep repeating them over and over. So we gotta learn from them!
That's my journal today and that's my life... I'm the one who decides for myself and I won't let anyone rule it.
Anyone who needs to chat or exchange PM, feel free to drop me a line.
Posted 2 weeks ago # -
Petvet
offlineMemberGreat job Mr. Ente!
Especially great job for not smoking!
That's what I'm noticing too, that there are longer "happy times" and shorter "sad times". I guess we just need to ride out the sad times and know the feelings will pass.
Keep up the good work!
Sincerely, Petvet.
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The proceeds will help maintain my free Blog and Forum. I Thank You for Your Support!Posted 2 weeks ago Hungaro
offlineMemberYeah the bad days are almost necesary,because during this time we start to appreciate the good moments!KEEP ON ROLLIN'!!!
SW's soldier
"Let This Be A Song Now And This Be A Day
And We Stand Together That Will Be Okay
Because We're Survivors We're Making It Work
Expecting The Best When They Hope For The Worst"Posted 2 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberAnother good day at work and great energy with the people around me.
Have been in a really good mood and I'm handling situations better and better.Still No smoking Policy, and it feels good.
I'm going to the gym tomorrow... and then I'll buy a couple of things to decorate my room.
A friend signed me up on a dating site :s and even if it is weird, I'm having fun. Already 2 potential dates... haha
Went out for a drink this evening and now I'm back home and I'll stay here working on my little novel.
Have a great week end everyone and Don't Give Up! 'Cause real happiness is priceless and pain will fade away.
Posted 2 weeks ago # -
Petvet
offlineMemberHi Mr. Ente,
That's cool you're working on a novel. I have at least two books in my mind that I need to sit down and write. My mind hasn't been very clear lately though. I'm having enough trouble just getting thru the day. Hopefully that will all turn around soon!Sincerely, Petvet.
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offlineMemberHey all, I woke up early and in a good mood. Will go to the gym and kick the day's ass!
Petvet, write whatever comes to your mind... it helps to vent a little bit... write even if it doesn't make sense: you can always delete it if you don't like it later. Write... it's gonna make you feel a little better and it will help to go through the day.
Thanks KC, there is a light at the end of the tunnel for all of us... And I'm sure that it's not the light of a fucking train that will run as over!!!
It's the light of a good life for us... but we gotta work hard to reach it!
Posted 2 weeks ago #-
Hungaro
offlineMember
No it is not the fucking train!
All we here to fight! Fight for our dreams, fight for our better life! U can be on the top of the mountain, but at first you have to climb up, wich is not easy...but nobody said the it's going to be easy! I do belive that nothing is impossible! If you do not reach something, it is just because you give it up! But we aren't like that, right?
The gym gonna be good for u! I just arrived home from playing futsal...now I cannot even walk, I am really tired, but feels good!
So GIDDY UP FIGHTERS!!!
SW's soldier
"Let This Be A Song Now And This Be A Day
And We Stand Together That Will Be Okay
Because We're Survivors We're Making It Work
Expecting The Best When They Hope For The Worst"Posted 2 weeks ago # -
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offlineMemberOk, I kinda forgot to speak about her. The reason why I'm here.
I've been busy and as you might have read, had been away from Facebook for a while.
Logged in a few days ago, to say hi to a couple of friends around the world.
After a few weeks since she denied all access to her wall and pictures... I decided to do the same (she once clickd I like and the unliked a pic on my wall, but I receivd the notification!), which made me realize that she was checking me out. She knew what I was up to, but I didn't knew anything about her.
It seems it had an effect...On the same evening she called me..! But I was having problems with my phone and saw the phone call 1 hour later... didn't call her back and had no contact until yesterday.She keeps receiving mail at my place so we texted each other again... without breaking NC, she asked me if she could come to my place in an hour, but I answer I leaving, still she could pass by since my housemate was there, she seemed to be cool with it, but she never came and the mail is still here.
I'm leaving soon and I'm quite busy now, might not see her until the end of March... so I'll keep this attitude... after all she has to move if she wants her mail. If it can be arranged with my housemate I don't need to wait for her, so it's even better for me.
What do u guys think? S.W.? Am I doing ok with this attitude?
Posted 2 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberThanks KC, that cheers me up a little bit!
I woke up thinking about her today... not in a really bad way... But I still I wanted to avoid it.
Just realized it has been 10 weeks since the break up and a long time of NC.
The only time she called out of the blue, I didn't answer the phone. So sometimes I wonder if it was the right thing to do. Well, if she didn't called again I'm sure it was not something really important... and in all this time she didn't gave any sign of attention or caring a littl bit about me.
I keep concentrating on myself... but sometimes thoughts come along and it's not easy to escape from them!
I'm moving on... I think sometimes I just need to be with someone to fullfil that emptyness... but first I must be 100% happy with myself: I'm getting there and I promise I'll do my best.
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offlineMemberMrEnte said:
I'm moving on... I think sometimes I just need to be with someone to fullfil that emptyness... but first I must be 100% happy with myself: I'm getting there and I promise I'll do my best.I think I feel the same.
Im working on my life, (jogging, belly dnace, new fashion, bleached teeth, friends, clubbing...) Im sattisfied with myself.
Just need someone to sheare a life with
My NC is 16 daysPosted 2 weeks ago #-
MrEnte
offlineMemberI read again the magic of breaking up and now I can see it in another perspective! It's amazing how it changes if I read it once in a while. I feel more confident everytime I read it and despite bad feelings I'm getting better.
I'm also reading the free plan as it's really straight forward and clear! Thanks SW, great job there mate.
I'm not ready for reconnection, and one of the reasons it's because I don't wanna do it now.
I'm getting ready though...And instead of contacting her I can take care of myself and vent here with all of you.
At the moment I might only feel the VOID of not being with someone... but I rather to live and get stronger with this void than finding a cheap love.Stay Strong Everyone!
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Hungaro
offlineMemberGood to read it! I should read again the magic of making up as well I think...
Good to see, that everyone of us getting stronger and stronger!
MrEnte u r doing a really great job!
SW's soldier
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And We Stand Together That Will Be Okay
Because We're Survivors We're Making It Work
Expecting The Best When They Hope For The Worst"Posted 2 weeks ago # -
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Petvet
offlineMemberYes, I agree about counting the actual days hasn't been too important for me. I just know I want to feel better first before I start thinking "outside the box". I like being in NC. It feels like I'm hiding in a safe place where no one can hurt me. I don't know how long it will take to heal, I just know I have to let it happen. At least the hemorrhage has stopped (thanks to SW, he's a great surgeon!). The staples and sutures are in place. Granulation tissue has started to appear. But the incision is still very fragile and tenuous, and could re-open with any type of additional force or tension. I'm still in ICU, and don't really know how long I'll have to stay...
Thanks for the advice Mr. Ente to just write, it does really help!
Sincerely, Petvet.
Posted 2 weeks ago # -
MrEnte
offlineMemberThanks Petvet, I'm glad that my little advice helped you to write
You can get many advices, but it's only you who is doing a great job and keeping strong.Regarding myself, I had a fine day at work and I'm trying to keep the good mood
Just a few days remaining, I honestly can't wait to be at the airport.I know, time is still needed and if she never contactedme during all this time there must be a reason. I won't focus on it..! I know I must keep evolving.
What different does it make to try to read stupid signals? Believe me... they only help to pull us down. I'm understanding that and I must keep working on it.
What I'd like to ask, maybe is... What's next?
I overcome to days of anxiety and drepression.
I started many new things. I'm helthier, getting in better shape. I discovered many friends are really close to me. I've been flirting and had a few dates.
I'm going on holidays...All I need it's just a little patience...!
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Hungaro
offlineMemberthis is for u mate!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ErvgV4P6Fzc&feature=fvst
SW's soldier
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And We Stand Together That Will Be Okay
Because We're Survivors We're Making It Work
Expecting The Best When They Hope For The Worst"Posted 2 weeks ago # -
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MrEnte
offlineMemberFine day at work today as well.
I thought I have given that girl all the best I ever had... I was wrong. I can give even more and if she doesn't want it, someone else will. I feel totally in peace with myself now and I don't regret anything I've done.I'm Still working out as well and keeping a healthy life. I'm trying to help people and make people happy.
Exchanging messages with people here, during this week I kinda realized that getting over a break up is like training a part of your body at the gym... you do it to get stronger or you train to run a full marathon.
During the break up we are just training our hearts, to get them ready for a better and helthier relationship, also to make it stronger in case things don't go the way we planned.Don't give up people, stay strong... stick to NC until you are completly ready for reconnection. Then It will be up to you what you really want.
Don't give up, 'cause a relationship must be based in the love of two persons. And it can not work out if only one is making "an effort".
Don't give up, 'cause soon you'll get what you really deserve (call it your EX or someone even much better).
Don't give up, 'cause you want regret anything you have done to become a better person.
Don't give up, you owe it to yourself.
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The proceeds will help maintain my free Blog and Forum. I Thank You for Your Support!Posted 2 weeks ago Hungaro
offlineMemberHey mate, very nice post!
I agree with all your words!!! KEEP ON ROLLIN'!!!
It has one and only one meaning if we do not reach what we want...WE HAVE TO WORK HARDER!!! GIDDY UP SOLDIERS!!!!
SW's soldier
"Let This Be A Song Now And This Be A Day
And We Stand Together That Will Be Okay
Because We're Survivors We're Making It Work
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Petvet
offlineMemberMrEnte said:
Don't give up, 'cause a relationship must be based in the love of two persons. And it can not work out if only one is making "an effort".
I guess this is one of the things that's been hardest for me. I didn't get a choice in the matter. Everything was going so perfectly and then he's GONE
No explanation! Hopefully with the NC letter, it will give me the opportunity to have a choice too.Posted 2 weeks ago #
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